When you look into your mother’s eyes, you know that is the purest love you can find on this earth. - Mitch Albom There are endless examples of my mom's radical love. This is one that I'll never forget.
I asked my mom, "What kind of advice would you give to all parents?". I think we could all benefit from her wisdom for any relationship. Listen to her answer in Chinese here: https://go.parentsarehuman.com/momsadvice
Warning: This is hard and not for the faint of heart. My parents used to say a lot of things that triggered me. This remarkable exercise helped me see the love behind their words.
I had it all backwards. I wanted my mom and dad to listen to me first before I heard them out. I was so busy trying to change my parents that I forgot to change myself. I am the only person I can change.
My dad lives a very simple life, and he is always so jolly. Someone asked him, "Mr. Lam, how do you stay so happy?" His answer is the reminder I need about what's most important in life.